We all get angry from time to time but constant feelings of anger and frustration can take over our lives, fortunately, we can learn to control it.
Anger is a quick reaction to a problem or an issue which happens in a brief moment. As human beings, anger can change our mood dramatically, causing us to shout when we interact with others. Sometimes it’s best to take a step back and analyse the situation before it gets to that stage.
Here are some tips you can use when you feel the anger start to build up:
STOP THE ANGER BUILD UP
We cannot stop ourselves when we are angry – a situation or issue can seem a lot worse than it actually is in the moment. Anger overload or build up is when words come out without much thought. To stop the build-up – try to breathe slowly in and out and count to ten.
THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK
The first reaction when we are angry is to scream or shout at the closest person to us – whether they are in the same room or even in another environment it’s something that needs to be sorted first. You can’t take words back even with an apology, so it’s best to not speak unless you want to regret the things you say.
REFRAIN YOURSELF FROM INJURY OR BROKEN ITEMS
Many of us allow anger to build up so much it may lead to injury of ourselves or others or breaking things. We need to be more aware of the aftermath than the actual subject itself – many people do it as a stress relief and don’t think of the consequences of their actions. You could really hurt yourself or someone else, you may break something which cannot be fixed.
TAKE TIME OUT
It’s hard to do when you have so many things on your mind and so many answers you need to know. But taking some time out and away from the situation can make a whole lot of difference. Our quick reaction may have caused more problems which we definitely don’t want. Also, the more reserved you are, the person you are angry at or the situation you want to avoid may sort itself out.
RELEASE THE ANGER THROUGH EXERCISE
Not only are you working towards a good body but you are also releasing the tension in your mind as well as your
body. If you feel your anger escalating try to go on a run or a brisk walk – spend some time doing something you physically enjoy. You will feel different about the situation once you have taken some time to not think about it. You may not be over your anger but you will find an outlet to stop the outbursts.
IT’S A BAD DAY NOT A BAD LIFE
Every day is different and if you think of all the things in the past that made you angry, they probably don’t matter
anymore. Even if the situation is still around you, you should look at it in a different way. You may be able to see where you went wrong and whether the person needed forgiveness in order to move on.
DON’T HOLD A GRUDGE & TRY FORGIVENESS INSTEAD
A grudge can affect your mind, body and soul in ways you can’t see yourself. Forgiveness is a great tool to use when you are angry, not only does it stop the situation from happening again – but you can also see the signs when the
situation or person could pop up again to cause anger. You don’t want to be swallowed up in your own bitterness. If you can both learn and grow from the situation it can help and strengthen your relationship.
Excerpt from the sixth issue of Zest For Life Magazine. Click Read More to view the full article…